The Busy Homeschool Mom's Guide to Romance

Heidi St. John has done it again.

If anyone knows Kay Chandler, that is who Heidi reminds me of. Even when you are in a room full of people, it feels like its just you & her & she is sharing some personal enlightenment or world famous secret.

Do you remember “That Girl”? You know - the person you used to be.

Does your husband miss That Girl? You know - the one who actually tried to get his attention.

You CAN bring her back.

Did you know that your marriage matters?

It is a testimony

If your marriage fails, the enemy has a clear shot at your kids

"Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour:"1 Peter 5:8

The enemy can drive a wedge b/c we are unwilling to shine light on our own sins.
The marriage is the primary relationship in the home.
Do NOT sacrifice your marriage on the alter of home education.

Are you living a parallel life or are you living entwined together?
Do you travel along side by side doing your own thing, never touching or do you swerve back & forth between your own personal interests incorporating God whenever you connect during your most important activities?
"And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken." Ecc. 4:12
 
Have you ever heard of the Homeschool Vortex?
The vortex can start silently enough by not spending time with God, by filling yourself with pride, or legalism.
The vortex can only lead to discontent, wrong priorities, comparison to others, exhaustion, disconnection, & depression.
Once inside the vortex, Latin has become more important than lingerie. Your thoughts are on homeschool all the time. And date night no longer exists.

Have you fallen into the vortex?
1. Are you growing in your relationship with God?
2. Has homeschooling taken priority over your marriage?
3. Are you living parallel lives?
4. Is intimacy still important?

We need to stop believing the MYTH that sex is not that important!

Sex between a husband & a wife is not only enjoyable, but it is vital!
A lack of intimacy - whether physical, spiritual, or emotional causes separation.

Your calendar says a lot about your priorities. Make time for each other & create WHITE space on your calendar. Leave at least 2 days in a row unscheduled & just enjoy each other.

We need to make an effort to be That Girl. Through it all, love our husbands, our children, our God. We don’t have it all together, but we know the One who does.

Nurture your marriage first, then homeschool out of the overflow of what God gives you.

"Courage doesn’t always roar, sometimes it’s the little voice that says I will try again tomorrow."

I want to be THAT GIRL! I want to Finish Well!

Does the Bible Really Say THAT?

Yes, ladies, I'm afraid to say it, but YES, the Bible does address s e x. And, oh trust me, like most women I talk to, I really fall short in this area.

There are several times in the Bible where God commands that the wife submit herself to her husband. Being the "Miss Independent" that I am, I'm not too fond of this part, but I try, I really try to submit myself lovingly to my husband.

Ephesians 5

22.Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23.For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24.Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. 25.Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

Part of this submission also includes the marital bed. In 1 Corinthians, it clearly states that once we are married, we are no longer in complete control of our bodies.

1 Corinthians 7

1.Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.

2.Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. 3.Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. 4.The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. 5.Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

The reason I am even addressing this is because I believe that as a society, it has become the norm for women to withhold sex as a form of punishment when their husband makes them mad or doesn't live up to some expectation. I also believe that men see sex as a joke, something they are "entitled" to from any woman that they meet.

THIS NEEDS TO STOP!

Women, your husbands do not have to jump through hoops in order to receive physical pleasure! Men, your women (wives - preferably!) do not "owe" you anything!
God gave us sex as a way for husbands & wives to connect to one another in a way that not just anyone can.

Hebrews 13

4.Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled

I believe that if husbands & wives would start looking at sex through God's eyes instead of the way society has cheapened it, there would be a lot more happy homes, a lot less divorce & affairs, & a few more babies!

I, by no means, am everything that I need/desire to be. After all, between housework, homeschool, 3 kids - including a nursing baby, running here & there, a small farm, my wonderful blog (haha), & Blessed Boutique, I am one tired mama! This is a reminder to me as well! I NEED to invest in my marriage just like I would invest in my kids or my business!

So wives, I encourage you - be a little sweeter to your soul mate. Help him remember that feisty woman that he feel in love with.

I pray that God will reward your efforts & strengthen your love for each other!