Wednesday, July 3, 2013

What's Good for the Goose...

I consider myself a pretty reasonable person. I try not to judge people. I try to treat everyone equally. I have my own set of beliefs that I live for & if the need arose, I would die for. I am passionate about what I believe. I can respect your opinions & your beliefs as well. But don't be surprised if I tell you that I don't agree with you. It doesn't mean I think less of you. It just means that I am outspoken.

What I don't have any tolerance for is stupid people. I'm not talking about people who do something without knowing better. That lack of knowledge is ignorance. But doing something even though you know better is pure stupidity. I also don't handle double standards very well. What is good for one person should be good enough for another.

Now that you know where I stand (some of you already knew me enough to know that), I want to open up a can of worms that has many people upset these days.

I'm not a true fan of Paula Dean. I don't watch her show. I don't even know the name of her show. I do, however, own a baking dish with her name stamped on it that I absolutely love.

Whether I am a supporter of Dean's or not is completely irrelevant. This falls back on morals, which is something that many people today know nothing about. I have no clue whether or not she said many of the things she is being accused of. She has admitted to some of it, but I am sure that some of it has been blown out of proportion.

Should she (or anyone for that matter) use racial slurs, call people names, or belittle others? NO! It should never be accepted. But, why have we thrown Paula Dean to the wolves when we (not me) idolize rappers who call each other names & belittle women on a daily basis? Why has society gone crazy over someone voicing their opinion of another race (whether right or wrong) when people are being murdered for their religious beliefs? Why has every big name supporter dropped her like a hot poker when they continue to sing the praises of athletes who use drugs, movie stars who drive drunk, & musicians who desecrate the American Flag by walking on it?

Does this not PROVE how messed up our society is?!?!

Now, if you are reading this & you can HONESTLY say that you have NEVER said anything that would be considered offensive, disrespectful, or racist, then you are one of a kind & you can throw as many stones as you want to. But, I bet that every single one of us, at one point in our lives, has said or done something that we have looked back on & realized "WOW, that was stupid! I never should have done that."

Most of us live & learn. We try to get better everyday. We want to live in a world where people are kind & good. Where we can live along side our neighbor no matter if the choices they make in life differ from the ones we make. Where we can voice our opinions and beliefs to each other respectfully, without judgement.

Until we stop picking & choosing which sin is bigger & which one we can live with, our world will never have peace.

Just remember that you might want to inspect that glass house of yours for cracks before you go throwing stones. I would hate for it to come crashing down around you.

7 comments:

Anonymous said...

I agree wholeheartedly and know that I've been guilty (on more occasions than I would PREFER to admit to) of judging and gossiping and a whole bunch of other things that don't show my best side.

AND, like you, I strive to do better each day, each moment. And believe me, I get so honked that I see red when I see and hear some of the things that are allowed. Nay, condoned. Arghhhhhh.

Thanks for speaking up!

Jeff said...

There is a double standard for many things today and yes, it is wrong.

Any principles of right and wrong are quickly leaving us and our society along with any morals.

Stacy said...

Very well said and I agree completely! I've never defended what Deen said, but have argued the wrongness of throwing her to the wolves when we turn a blind eye to the sins of others.

Love your blog...it seems like a happy place. Visiting from the UBC.

Kristi said...

Great post. I don't think I quite understand the whole thing, I haven't been paying that much attention, other than what I see on my FB feed. But from what I *do* get, this happened 20+ years ago? Unacceptable, yes, absolutely. Especially considering 20 years ago, it was 1993, not 1963. You can't even blame "southern culture" for that one. BUT... it's not like it doesn't happen everywhere, every day. Look at the Trevon Martin case (which my husband has been following quite well). Apparently, the girlfriend who testified yesterday didn't see a problem with him using the word cr*cker. That's a slur, too. One isn't worse, or better, than the other. It's just not. You're absolutely wright, what's good for the goose is good for the gander, and if we're not going to actually respond to everyone who behaves in this manner, than we absolutely can't pick and choose who we are going to demonize. It's unfair.

tammy said...

thank you for speaking up about Paula Deen you are so right even the black people call themselves that word all the time in rap songs and they say it is okay. I think that what I am hearing that they are saying that they want to bring down family values. Look at the gay people getting married no more just a man and woman familys. I'm telling you they don't want our kids to act morally. They want us and our kids to disrespect all of humanity. Look at the commercials of today we are disrespecting mothers and fathers all the time making them look dumb.

Le Willow Wimp said...

I agree with this post. I think its unfortunate that Paula Deen being raked over the coal for this but i think that this is just for attention. I have no idea of most of what she said but I think she happened to be the most likely candidate for ostracization given her place in the public eye.

I really don't like how blacks in the US are quick to cry racism at every single thing. I really don;t get it. maybe its because I grew up in a different sort of environment.

But there is a double standard everywhere these days.

Loretta Smith said...

I completely agree with you. I don't enjoy Paula Dean. I don't agree with her eating habits. But political correctness has exploded here, and it's time to stop. If this is going to happen to her, then to be fair, it should happen to everyone! We know that's impossible, so it's time to go back to "sticks and stones will break my bones but names will never hurt me", and allow people to make their own decisions as to what they will allow in their life. Personally I don't associate with people who put other people down, but I also understand we all make mistakes, and that's what repentance is for! Great post!

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